Damn, that’s annoying.
So, my wife and I were sitting around the living room, like we do. We’re very much like old people — every once in a while, we’ll watch something on TV, but most of the time, we just sit around and talk. I know — my wife is pretty great. I’m lucky to have her.
Anyway, somehow we got on the subject of things that annoy us about each other. We each tried to list a top five, but we each only made it to three and a half, because we’re disgustingly cute. I realized that my list of things she does that annoy me (all minor) really say more about me than they do about her.
It’s the same with a lot of people, I think. The things we think annoy us, or make us angry, might have very little to do with those things themselves.
I’ll put it another way, and bring it back to books — a lot of people I know are annoyed by the Twilight series, or 50 Shades of Gray, or whatever’s selling billions at the time. They level all sorts of complaints about poor writing or transparent characters… but I doubt any of that is what really bothers people.
So there’s a badly-written book out there. So what? (For the record, I’ve never read either of the above, so I don’t actually know if they’re poorly written. Sake of argument.) How does that book or series existing impact your life in any meaningful way? Are you annoyed about the characterization, or is it something else? Something that has nothing to do with a book no one’s forced you to read, that’s become a movie no one is going to make you go see?
Hint: you’re not angry or annoyed about the book. Look at what it is that’s really bothering you, and move forward from there.
Also, have a great weekend!